Gender binaries have been engrained in us from a very young age. At birth we are given pink or blue toques and blankets, which immediately suggests that we must choose one or the other. As stated in “Girls Are Pink, Boys are Blue: On Toddlers and Gender Roles”, our parents influence us as toddlers to act either masculine of feminine. Sometimes without even realizing it, they are giving us the idea that boys must be strong and aggressive and girls must be dainty and caring. The article suggests “it’s the social conditioning they receive that makes them pick up and internalize gender roles”, otherwise known as a gender schema. In my opinion, the common normative is that women still belong in the kitchen as well-kept, innocent beings, and men should be the breadwinners. Although this normative is slightly adjusting to a more gender-neutral society where women have an option to work or stay at home with the children, we are still a very gender-biased society.
I think my parents were pretty neutral in raising me as I had two older brothers and they constantly made me believe that I could do just as much as they could. Even though my parents were pretty neutral, other aspects of my childhood such as teachers, coaches, peers and media altered my views on gender. In my blog post, I talk about my life now and how I have a very traditional view of gender. I am a woman, a teacher, and a farmer but I am also a wife, a cook, and a cleaner. In my blog post, trying on my wedding dress made me realize that I love being a woman, and the appearance of a woman is what partially defines that. Along the same lines of my blog post, Jennfer’s blog suggests that in order to be seen as a girl, she was always seen wearing a skirt or a dress, wearing pink, with hair done, and showing the attitudes such as a fake cry, puppy eyes, or a innocent smile. In my opinion, this mimics gender stereotypes exactly as it suggests girls must always look perfect and be innocent. She expresses that she still has these characteristics by exclaiming “I still get excited when I get new dresses. I’m like a little kid in a candy shop! Or am just the stereotypical girl”. I think this is an idea that is presented to us again and again when society in general emphasizes the idea by their comments, views, and actions of how a girl should look.
Another post by Brie suggests women must dress in a certain way to be seen as powerful. We must wear the proper clothing, do our hair and makeup, and spend way to much time getting ready in the morning in order to be taken seriously in the workplace. Brie even questions why she has to spend two extra hours getting ready in the morning and states “I understand we want our teachers to look professional, what does them being all dolled up have to do with how well they can teach?” Which is totally true, how does that have anything to do with how we can teach?
Although the above blogs denote gender as having distinct binaries, this post portrays an opposite opinion in that men and women should have equal rights and responsibilities in the house and that by helping your other half in the home with “their” jobs, you are not defining you gender by doing a sink of dishes. It is important for both members of the household to contribute in order to have a healthy relationship and show respect to one another.
As you can see, these blogs show completely different ideas. In my personal blog as well as the first two blogs mentioned, we see girls and woman being identified with how they look and the innocence that they should possess. In my blog I personally talk about how even though my husband and I are equals in our relationship, him and I have very different roles within out household. However in the last blog, this student think that men should never be degraded to less than men, and men should help with the “woman’s jobs” of the household.
I think it is interesting that lots of people from rural areas, myself included, say they are from traditional, old-fashioned communities so therefore have to maintain the gender binary. In this reading by Laura Budd, although talking about inclusion of transgenders in small communities, I think the same idea applies to gender roles in the home. She states that although some people had negative opinions and were not afraid to voice them, most were accepting. I think if people reevaluated how they actually think about gender roles and the impacts their community and society has on their ideas, people might be more open to varying gender roles.